Learning to Live Without a Son

Caring for a Caregiver
A New Way to Give
United Way 2014
On the Shelf

A Note from the Director

In our newsletter last month, I mentioned the untimely death of comedian Robin Williams. Though many are not aware, September is actually the month set aside as “National Suicide Awareness Month.” In this month’s issue, Dave and Lisa Meyer share their story about losing a beloved son to suicide.

As you might expect, talking about suicide is not particularly easy or popular. However, it is necessary and helpful to do so. Imagine what it would be like to ‘suffer in silence’ either as someone who has contemplated suicide in the past or someone who has lost a loved one to suicide. In either case, one of the most ironic tragedies of approaching suicide with silence is that it adds to the loneliness and isolation that so many already feel.

I encourage us to be courageous and to treat the subject of suicide with grace, concern and openness. And may Lisa and Dave’s story bless you, as they bravely allow their pain to become helpful healing for us.


Heath Greene

 Learning to Live Without a Son

For Dave and Lisa Meyer, life has a clear delineation of “before” and “after.”

There is before, when they had three living children. And there is after January 29, 2010, the date on which their middle child committed suicide. READ MORE

Caring for the Caregiver

Kathleen Kellum, psychologist and clinical supervisor at Associates, shared last month about keeping caregivers healthy (Click here to read her thoughts in the E-News archives).

Many of us know and love someone who is providing care for a chronically ill or disabled family member. It’s a role that can be exhausting and consuming. Some offers of help will lighten the burden, but others, though well-meaning, can have the opposite effect.

Dr. Kellum provided concrete suggestions to help a caregiver:

  • Be quick to listen and slow to speak.  Many caregivers just need to be heard and cared for themselves. You do not have to fix them or their problem.
  • Do not interject your own stories of woe or "when I was in your shoes..." UNLESS they ask specifically for your thoughts and advice.
  • Send cards or make short phone calls that let them know you are thinking about them and praying for them.
  • Ask them if there is anything specifically they can do to help.  You might have a list of things that you feel that you have the time and skill to provide.
  • If they say no, graciously accept that no and let them know they can call you if they need you.
  • Pray, pray and pray . . . do not cease in praying for them.

A New Way to Give!

Friends of Associates can now choose a more convenient way to make their gifts. Click here for a form that will allow our partners to use regular autodrafts to give. Simply print the form and mail it to Associates with a voided check to set up monthly giving.

This is the time of year when many companies
begin “recruiting” United Way givers among their employees.
If you join your employer in giving to the United way,
remember you may designate your gift (completely or in part) to
Associates in Christian Counseling
by writing in our number: 2062

On the Shelf for September

Rare Bird: A Memoir of Loss and Love by Anna Whiston-Donaldson

This 2014 memoir recounts the day when a 12-year-old boy is swept away in a freak neighborhood flood. His family is left to wrestle with the awful questions: How could God let this happen? And, Can we ever be happy again? With this unforgettable account of a family’s love and longing, Anna will draw you deeper into a divine goodness that keeps us—beyond all earthly circumstances—safe.

Growing Up Social: Raising Relational Kids in a Screen-Driven World by Gary Chapman

In this digital age, children are spending more and more time interacting with a screen rather than a parent. Technology has the potential to add value to our families, but it can also erode a sense of togetherness and hinder a child's emotional growth. Today's screens aren't just in our living rooms; they are in our pockets. Now is the time to equip your child to live with screen time, not for screen time.


Words to Keep

“Our bodies are buried in brokenness but they will be raised in glory, they are buried in weakness but they will be raised in strength.”
1 Cor. 15:43

“We cannot go backward, though there are times we yearn to. We must move forward. If we don’t, we stay stuck at the point that our world changed. I used to say ‘ended.’ We must learn to live again, love again, feel joy and peace again—or our survival will be without value to ourselves or others.”
Renee Little

“The most called-upon prerequisite of a friend is an accessible ear.”
Maya Angelou

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