National Bullying Prevention Month

Bullying in Cyberspace
Social Media by the Numbers
On the Shelf

Dear friends,

Since October is bullying awareness month, articles and news reports have popped up on my radar multiple times that truly disturb and sadden me: accounts of child after child haunted and hurt by the words and actions of peers, often with devastating results.

It is easy to feel anger and quick judgement toward those who bully, yet I am reminded that each of us holds the power to help and harm. A simple Cherokee tale that you may have heard expresses this truth well:

The story goes that an old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life.
“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

Friends, with the help of the Holy Spirit, let us each feed the good wolf. I hope the articles in this month's E-News are a blessing and encouragement to you!

With gratitude,

Heath Greene

 October : National Bullying Prevention Month

October is National Bullying Prevention Month, and schools and organizations throughout Winston-Salem and the broader area have spent the month raising awareness and providing education.

On October 11, students and other community members joined local mental health agency CenterPoint in an anti-bullying walk and awareness event at the BB&T Ballpark. READ MORE

Bullying in Cyberspace

“I can see why your boyfriend dumped you.”
“Your clothes are so ugly.”
“You always smell bad.”

 These words delivered in person would be hurtful, but when posted online, social media allows others to join in by “liking” offensive or hurtful comments.

Online bullying has joined schoolyard intimidation and cafeteria cattiness as a common way to attack peers. And this attack does not end when an adolescent goes home, due to the pervasive influence of social media.

“It’s just another frontier to go after those who seem to be the weak link,” says Teresa Tindall, licensed professional counselor at Associates. Tindall, who sees many adolescent girls in her practice, says that online avenues can be a place to spread rumors or deliver persistent putdowns. READ MORE

Social Media by the Numbers

A recent survey of more than 7,000 teens reported that more than 90 percent of those polled used some form of social media. Instagram, a popular image-posting application, was the most used. Facebook, though still used, declined in popularity. Here are the detailed findings:

Social networking: Which of the following do you use?

  1. Instagram
    Fall 2014: 76 percent
    Spring 2014: 69 percent
  2. Twitter
    Fall 2014: 59 percent
    Spring 2014: 63 percent
  3. Facebook
    Fall 2014: 45 percent
    Spring 2014: 72 percent
  4. Pinterest
    Fall 2014: 22 percent
    Spring 2014: 21 percent
  5. Tumblr:
    Fall 2014: 21 percent
    Spring 2014: 21 percent

The Taking Stock With Teens survey by Piper Jaffray & Co, an investment and wealth management company, is a semi-annual research project comprised of gathering input from approximately 7,200 teens with an average age of 16.0 years. Teen spending patterns, fashion trends, and brand and media preferences were assessed through visits to a geographically diverse subset of high schools across 11 states and 14 schools, as well as an online survey that included 41 states. The survey is conducted in partnership with DECA, an international association of high school students. The fall survey was conducted from August 25 – September 30, 2014.

On the Shelf for October

Enough: 10 Things We Should Tell Teenage Girls
Kate Conner

You are beautiful. You are valuable. You are enough.

In a book based on her run-away blog post "Ten Things I Want to Tell Teenage Girls,” which garnered more than 2 million views in two weeks, Kate Conner calls us to action in Enough. A former youth-worker, wife to a college minister, and a young mom in her twenties, Conner stands squarely in the generational gap, the perfect place from which to bridge it.

The Making of an Ordinary Saint: My Journey from Frustration to Joy with the Spiritual Disciplines
Nathan Foster (Author), Richard Foster (Foreword)

Nathan Foster was just a child when his father's classic Celebration of Discipline entered the popular evangelical consciousness. More than thirty years later, Nathan made his own journey into the spiritual disciplines. In this engaging narrative, he draws insights from saints of old to uncover fresh ways of living for the contemporary, postmodern Christian.


Words to Keep

"I have this theory that if one person can go out of their way to show compassion, then it will start a chain reaction of the same. People will never know how far a little kindness can go."
Rachel Scott,
first victim killed in Columbine High School and inspiration for Rachel’s Promise.

“Kind words are like honey—
   sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.”
Proverbs 16:24

“Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips!”
Psalm 141:3
“Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again.”
Og Mandino

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