January 2009

Dear Friends,

Time gives us the perspective that life includes lots of comings and goings.  As some people and circumstances are entering our lives, others are leaving.  Navigating these transitions is an important skill that can be very challenging depending on the significance of the change or loss.  We hope this month’s focus on grief will equip and encourage you.

We also begin ramping up for our 2009 banquet featuring legendary Coach Jerry Moore (details below).  We hope you will plan to be with us.

We wish you every blessing in this New Year.

Dr. Joe Verga
Executive Director


Dealing with Grief  in a Quick-Fix
            World—An Interview with
            Teresa Tindall, LPC

A New Year and an Empty
            Place—Personal Insights of
            Carolyn Barlow

The Stages of Grief

2009 Banquet

Speakers Bureau

Out and About in Our Community

Book Reviews

Dealing with Grief in a Quick-Fix World—
An Interview with Teresa Tindall, LPC

Both her life experience and training give Teresa Tindall the ability to relate to people who are hurt and grieving.  Prior to joining Associates, Teresa worked for a time with the Hospice Kid’s Path Program. Read on as she shared her insight into the journey of grief.

A New Year with an Empty Place

Death and grief are an inevitable part of everyone’s journey through life.  If you have not personally dealt with grief, then someone close to you has.  Carolyn Barlow, a friend of Associates, lost her beloved husband, Dean, in 1996.  A newspaper article, “Driving in the Snow,” prompted her to write about her own grief journey, which she has graciously permitted us to reprint here. Read More

The Five Stages of Grief

The Kübler-Ross model first introduced by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book, On Death and Dying.  It describes a process by which people deal with grief and tragedy, especially when diagnosed with a terminal illness. The stages are:

:  Example - "I feel fine."; "This can't be happening, not to me!

:  Example - "Why me? It's not fair!" "NO! NO! How can this happen!"

Example - "Just let me live to see my children graduate."; "I'll do anything, can't you stretch it out? A few more years."

: Example - "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"; "I'm going to die . . . What's the point?"

: Example - "It's going to be OK."; "I can't fight it, I may as well prepare for it."

Information from Wikipedia, “Kubler-Ross model.”

2009 Banquet
Mark Your Calendar!

Jerry Moore, Head Football Coach, Appalachian State University,
a college football coaching legend with a compelling Christian testimony

Associates in Christian Counseling’s annual fundraising banquet

Tuesday, April 14th, 2009, at 6:30PM

Benton Convention Center
Winston-Salem, NC

Details on business and individual sponsorships will be in our February newsletter.

For information now, contact us at heather@christiancounseling.org

Speakers Bureau

Now that a new year has begun, if you are looking for a speaker for your civic organization, women’s or men’s group, or a church function, consider Associates in Christian Counseling’s Speakers Bureau.

We have 10 staff members available to speak on a variety of topics including:

  • Common problems such as anxiety, depression, grief or stress
  • Marriage
  • Men’s Issues
  • Women’s Issues
  • Parenting
  • Self-care
  • Spirituality & Mental Health

For more information on a specific topic or to schedule a speaker for your group, contact heather@christiancounseling.org.

Out and About in Our Community

Through outreach and our Speakers Bureau, Associates’ staff members have visited or spokenduring the past several months at:

Lawndale Baptist Church, GreensboroWomen’s Ministry

Old Town Baptist Church

Pilot Mountain Baptist Association

Reynolda Presbyterian Missions Fair

River Oaks Community Church Women’s Prison Ministry

Wesleyan Education Center, High Point Faculty















Book Reviews

A Grief Observed
C.S. Lewis
Originial copyright 1961
Lewis describes his own journey of grief and struggle with God after the loss of his wife to cancer.  (Basis for the movie, Shadowlands.)

Experiencing Grief
H. Norman Wright
Broadman & Holman Publishers, 2004
A very practical and healing guide for those journeying through the experience of the loss of a loved one.

Tear Soup
Pat Schweibert & Chuck DeKlyen
Grief Watch, 2005
Written in the style of a child’s picture book it speaks to those of any age who grieve a loss in life about the uniqueness of each journey



Two Thoughts

God gave us our memories so that we might have roses in December.
J.M. Barrie

Death ends a life
but it does not end a relationship
which stuggles on in the survivor’s mind
toward some resolution
which it may never find.
   Robert Anderson from I Never Sang for my Father

Special Gifts

In honor of
Scott Reed

Given by
Wilmington, DE

In honor of
Dr. Joe Verga

Given by
Joyce Bullard
Heather Verga

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