August 2008


This month we focus on a serious issue that occurs with a frequency and proximity that most would find surprising. Domestic violence disrupts and destroys the very essence of the marriage covenant, trust. It tears down something that God builds up and in some cases it hides behind Christian doctrine and even the Scriptures. Although it is not limited to male on female abuse, that will be our focus here and we will not forget the other victims—the children.

Please take the time to be informed about this issue, so you will be equipped with truth and hope.


Dr. Joe Verga
Executive Director, ACC



Suffering in Silence

The standard greeting—“How are you?”
The standard reply—“Fine.”
But what if everything isn’t fine? What then?
Read More




Domestic Violences—
An Interview with Dodie Caudill

As a clinician, Dodie has heard the story of domestic violence in her counseling practice. Listen as she shares her wisdom as a therapist and as a Christian. Read More

What About the Children?

In many situations, domestic violence is not limited to an abuser and a single victim. According to www.endabuse.org, “slightly more than half of female victims of intimate violence live in households with children under the age of 12. In a national survey of more than 6,000 American families, 50% of the men who frequently assaulted their wives also frequently abused their children.” What does this mean for the children? Read More

United Way - A Way to Give

United Way of Forsyth County kicks off their 2008 campaign at the end of August.

You may designate all or part of your donation to
Associates in Christian Counseling.

Simply write 2062 on your United Way form—
and Associates in Christian Counseling will receive your gift!

A relationship is not healthy when...

  • You are belittled, and your value and your accomplishments are not recognized.
  • You are threatened.
  • You are slapped, punched, kicked or hurt.
  • You are kept away from your family and friends.
  • There is extreme possessiveness or jealousy.
  • Your partner insists on being together all the time, or on monitoring what you do when you are alone.
  • You, your family, your work, your church and your friends are disrespected.
  • You are ignored when you give an opinion; your likes and dislikes count for nothing.
  • You are called names that are embarrassing and hurtful.
  • You are blamed for all the problems.

Refuge from Abuse: Healing and Hope for Abused Christian Women, p8.

Book Reviews

It Could Happen to Anyone: Why Battered Women Stay
Alyce Violette and Ola Barnett
Sage Publications, 2000
A thorough look at the complex factors that make it difficult for women to leave violent relationships.

Refuge: A Pathway Out of Domestic Violence and Abuse
Don Stewart
New Hope Publishers, 2004
Stewart draws on his 20 years of experience as a police detective to share practical experience for victims and those who desire to help them


Refuge from Abuse: Healing and Hope for Abused Christian Women
Nancy Mason-Clark and Catherine Clark Kroeger
Inter-varsity Press, 2004
This sociologist (Mason-Clark) and Biblical scholar (Kroeger) team up to speak especially to Christian women who thought it couldn’t happen to them.




 

 

Tune in next month when our focus will be—
Back to School: Helping Your Child Adjust
Wednesday, September 3rd, 8:30-9:00AM, on WBFJ-89.3FM


 


A Thought

Nothing makes us so lonely as our secrets.
Secrets by Paul Tournier


Fast Facts

Physical abuse is the number one cause of injury to women.

One out of every two women will be in a battering relationship at some time in her life.

Physical abuse has more long-term effects than any other crime.

--from Psychology Today, article ID 1859, August, 2004


From 1/1 through 7/23/08—in NC alone--
there have been 53 domestic violence homicides

--from NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence




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